Whenever I read your comments and essays, I am reminded of the quote "suffer no fools gladly". It's refreshing to see people committing to a series of rhetorical haymakers rather than restraining their power with jabs (borrowing your metaphor here), which is probably why I'm drawn to your content. Reflecting on your point about civility's limits, I do think the inability to say the hard and painful truth, plainly and simply, is the strongest argument against the effectiveness of civility.
I also believe that you are not applying this attitude toward everyone you have exchanges with. I can see that you only confront those who you have deemed to be dishonest in their pursuit of truth. You aim for people who are quick to inject emotion into rational arguments, who are quick to misrepresent you, and who are dismissive of your arguments without presenting counter arguments. This is an endeavor I commend and support (though the means may not necessarily align), and though I'm not convinced that our efforts will have a notable affect in the way people think or carry themselves in conversations, I still believe that it is a worthy goal to try.
I truly believe that our differing methods are complimentary. I really resonated with your seed analogy, and I hope that I can learn from your method and do my part in breaking the ground as well. I'm still working on becoming more confident and assertive as a writer and speaker, so I definitely have much more to learn. I will say that I am learning a lot from you, and I may not be the first to say it, but I believe you are definitely increasing the morale of your fellow travelers.
I'm continuously impressed and inspired by your ability to articulate your thoughts. I hope we can help each other grow and develop as thinkers through our future conversations. Thanks for writing!